Keys to Having More Confidence
People of all ages struggle with self-confidence. I think this is because it's a natural human tendency for your brain to look for evidence that:
There's something wrong with you
There's something wrong with your life
Our brain's job is to constantly scan for danger and try to anticipate and prevent physical or emotional pain.
When this happens, we just need to override this part of our brain with TRUTH.
The truth is you are 100% WORTHY and so is everyone else on this planet.
There is NOTHING wrong with you and there is nothing wrong with your life.
You have a UNIQUE contribution to make in this world that no one else can provide the same way you can.
True self-confidence comes as we make promises to ourselves and keep them. In elementary school, I remember walking home from school and deciding I wasn't going to step on any cracks the whole way home. When I rushed in the door after keeping that promise to myself, I felt a whole foot taller. Can anyone relate to this?
Another aspect of self-confidence is being willing to feel ANY emotion. The worst thing that could ever happen to us is a negative emotion.
When we're willing to feel embarrassed, disappointed, frustrated, sad, and uncomfortable the whole world of possibilities open up to us. Any goal we have is suddenly within our reach.
The last thing that I believe builds self-confidence is being willing to forgive ourselves when we make mistakes. I call this unconditional self-love.
What would you be willing to try/do if you knew you weren't at risk of hating yourself if you messed up? How much more peaceful and happy would you be if your self-talk sounded more like an "inner bestie" rather than an "inner bully"?
My last caution is to stop looking outside yourself for self-confidence. Others' praise and criticism of you are far less important than what you think of you. Value YOUR own opinion more than anyone else's opinion!
